Becoming Casual Friends With Benefits

Are you tired and fed up with the feelings of owing an obligation to someone. Look for casual friends with benefits to hook up with. This is a person you get to have sex with but without any strings attached. No roses and expensive dinners. It is a relationship with an acquaintance or a friend based on mutual benefits. You do not have to go out on a date with them but you do give them a call when the bar closes at 1 a.m to know if they are in the mood to be hooked. However, the woman still calls the shots courtesy of old sexual standards unfortunately. But how does a person hook up with a friend for mutual benefits?

Rules governing casual friends with benefits must have a foundation of mutual agreement between the two friends. The relationship is worthless if you are not deriving those benefits you had anticipated. In the eventuality of feelings developing between the two parties, find ample time later and deal with it. Friends of mutual benefits are very hard to find and many things must be given due consideration before approaching one. To be up for it, one ought to be in a particular phase or stage of life and exhibit characteristics of being sexual and open. If by any chance you think the "friend" you have met is suitable, establish the stage she is in as far as her life is concerned. Travel priorities, a break up that was recent, a relationship lacking appropriate material or motives of enjoying ones freedom are the major reasons why people are ready to sign into an agreement of casual friends with benefits. You got to propose this arrangement in a subtle and indirect manner.

To avoid the disclaimer "i love you", test the waters with conversations intended at exploring her attitudes towards relationships, sex, life as a single person and general perspectives from both of you. Such a one-on-one discussion will give you a fairly easy judgement on whether she is actually open when it comes to sex, if she wishes she could have more regular sex and if she would mind to have company. You have heard and seen her side, move to the next level and let her know about you. Make sure she understands in no uncertain terms that, it is not a girlfriend you are looking for most definitely. Your goal is to be casual friends with benefits. At least you know your stand points at this juncture and it would be prudent to leave it at that.

Now that both of you are on the same wavelength and she finds you attractive, you will end up making the deal shortly. Slip her a line here and there, most preferably a compliment. Be assured it wont go astray especially if you are good at it. You might have the urge to invite her over to your home just to let her have a glimpse of what you have in store for her. The reason she should seriously think of seeing you regularly. Make sure you maintain the label casual friends with benefits otherwise you will be emotionally crashed.